Since Heather and I started this blog in June, there have been a few naysayers:
You’re not okayest, look at the parties you throw!
or things like:
Okayest? No wonder you have time for that blog…
Besides unleashing the beast within on these people, we’ve realized we haven’t really done a great job at explaining what “okayest” means to us. Maybe that was on purpose, though, as being an Okayest Mom, to us, is such a relative term. At the heart of an Okayest Mom is a single message: Choose what’s important to you and let go of all the rest. Seems so simple, right? But in this age of mom guilt and fear, it’s easy to feel pressured to “do it all” and that my friends, is something we are wholeheartedly against.
So, to answer the question of what it means to us, collectively, here it is: The Okayest Mom Manifesto.
What it means to be an Okayest Mom: A Manifesto
Above all else, we believe that motherhood looks different for everyone.
We believe in making room for what’s important to us and our families–knowing this will ebb and flow with time.
We believe in making peace with what isn’t important and letting it go; always remembering that comparison is the thief of joy.
We will build our mom village and defend it fiercely. We will celebrate with these women in our victories; we will lift them up during the hardest days.
We will say F you to mom guilt. We only have space in our head for what matters.
We will use humor to combat the hard days.
We will ask for help when we need it; we will offer help at all costs.
We will make mistakes, we will be better for them.
We affirm that motherhood is hard and we are all doing our very best.
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Stay tuned! Our new series: Evolution of an Okayest Mom starts Thursday with the one and only Heather! After we get our stories out of the way, we will be bringing your favorite Okayest Moms from all around the blogosphere. If you’d like to apply to be part of this series, please email us.
Want to meet more likeminded Okayest Moms? Join our Okayest Moms Group For Wayward Mothers on Facebook.
What does being an Okayest Mom mean to you? Add a line to the manifesto in the comments below!
I love this outlook! Motherhood will look different for everyone so being respectful of each other and doing what’s best for your family will always be more enjoyable. Sierra~Beautifully Candid
Exactly! We’ve got to get away from the idea that just because we do things differently one of us has to be wrong.
Yes, all of this. But you forgot to mention booze. Lots of it.
So much! But Dry January hasn’t been so bad!